October 10, 2011

Lady Klaar: Independent Woman

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Here I am approaching my thirties and it wasn't until a few weeks ago that I could add lived alone to my list of life's accomplishments. Why did it take so long? The pieces of my puzzle just always seemed to fall into place when it came to living with family, or a close friend, or a significant other. One day it was convenient and the next it was less expensive. But with teaching abroad, the cost of living is of no relevance to me as my housing is provided. And so with that, for the first time in my life I am living alone.
I can't say I love it. I won't say I hate it. However, oddly enough I am enjoying getting to know myself and see how I truly operate as an independent woman. I am currently re-evaluating who I am as a person and who I will become. Either way, I'm excited to see what this new phase in my life will bring and how it will alter my perspective on the world. I live by the saying, all things happen for a reason. I am sure that God planted this experience in my life to ensure I had a solid hold of who I am without the influences of my comfort zone.

It matters not how old or young you are, whether you live alone or with family, a roomate or a significant other, calling yourself an independent woman is being deeply rooted in who you are as an individual. Considering independent means doing something alone and the word individual is that one person, allow the words to be used interchangeably. Its loving yourself, flaws and all, lack there of and over abundance of, crooked teeth, blemishes and scars. Additionally, it's having goals in life and living to fulfil those goals. It's accepting that settling is unacceptable; that mediocre is non-existent; and that excellency is required.

With this God-given time, there are a few things I am planning to fine tune about myself! I love my personality: I'm witty, sarcastic, compassionate and frank! Therefore, nothing there will be changed! Sorry, darlings! However, I'd like to figure out my 30~flirty~signature~style and my purpose in life! A good friend told me that fashion is here today and gone tomorrow; whereas style is forever...A 60 year old  in fishnet is not cute...so..instead of filling my closet with fashionable pieces I'll seek out more stylish items! My purpose in life...that can't be summed up in a one liner, more like a few HUNDRED posts!

When's the last time you re-evaluated who you are? What were your revelations?


  1. What a great post and I agree. I have always been a believer that any young man or young woman should live on their own for a period in their lives at least once in their lives.

    I lived on my own for 7 years and I'll say that was one of the great chapters of my life during the time I was getting to know me and who I was and what made me "tick". Without that experience I don't think I'd be the person I am today.

    Happy trails on your journey to discovery of self. Hope you're doing well!

  2. I am glad you're back to blogging :)

    I do periodic self-evaluations. Because I am constantly evoloving, it seems like I learn something new everyday! Recently I've taken a look at my life in regards to my purpose as well, and the more I ask God to help me discover it, the more I understand my calling.

    Where are you living overseas??? That seems so exciting! Wishing you the very best.



  3. I feel like I constantly self-evaluate..which is good but I find myself comparing my old and present lives. I'm at a great place now mentally but reading this made me truly miss being single in my own apartment. I suppose I really love my independence! I have it now but I have it less, that seems to happen once you enter a relationship. That's why I agree, it's necessary to live on your own and get to know YOU a bit a better. I lived on my own for maybe 2 and half years and it was amazing, I could have lived on my own for longer but no regrets.

  4. @Vee, hi my friend! I wish you could hear me say this with my Arabic accent. It would be more comical~!

    @Chy! Yes, I am trying my hardest to be closer to God and follow his direction and not my intuition! Such a hard thing to determine, but the more and more I pray, he reveals more things to me.

    @THEEEEEERetroNatural...okay, for one I'm still somewhat star struck that you even comment on my blog, but yes...this has been an experience..I have always been an independent butterfly, but this has truly put a lot of things in to perspective. My kalediscope of life is constantly changing, I enjoy it, but there are aspects of living with someone that I miss. I guess you always look for what isn't when it is what it isn't...pretty much!


I sincerely appreciate the comments! From one selfless person to another, thank you!